Ok so two scenarios here are possible. Either you got dumped or you did the dumping. Neither of them are good but you want your ex back for some reason.
Most of the time, it is because you still have feelings for the person because that person is usually the only person who actually understood you. If you still fantasize about having that person back in your life, keep reading.
It hurts, we all know the feeling. The company, the sex, whatever you shared is over and done with and you can’t get it back, or can you? If you are got dumped you are in the playing position because if they come back for you, you can choose what to do with that, if you want to go after them then you need to take some important steps.
Some of those steps include keeping up communication, not seeming totally desperate for them or anyone, and not getting depressed about the whole situation. It also requires making sure you give that person adequate time and space to decide if he or she really wants you back.
Hesitations of the person may be for a variety of reasons, some of which may or may not be your fault. Some people just grow apart temporarily as they go through changes, such as when they start a new job or they graduate college.
In this case, the “dumping” is really not “dumping” but rather a mutual parting of ways, but in the case you were truly “dumped” it could have been for a very good reason. Did you cheat on the person? Did you hit or shove the person? Did you try to control the person in any way, or were you totally insensitive to that persons needs?
If so, you got dump for at least one very good reason. In the event that the relationship ended on a sour note it might take awhile to repair it. You need to be aware of this and this often requires patience.
Perhaps you dumped the person and now you regret it, and in fact maybe you do not even remember why. But now you have to somehow smooth over the hurt feelings which start with a simple conversation and an apology.
Whatever you do, during this conversation do not try to force the person to see your point of view-as if you are always right. This is important if you really want that person back.
Other than that, the ball is essentially in that person’s court. With that, you are now depending on their generosity and their connection with you to somehow get back into their good graces. However, remember not to cry and bed for the person to take you back or worse yet do not stalk the individual.
Above all, continue to be patient, just like in the case if you were dumped. After all, sooner or later if you really love the person you need to learn that it is not all about you.